Disclaimer: Parts of this post are disturbing and graphic, the content was left for brutal honesty, you have been forewarned
I've been doing online dating since I can remember(or online chatting). It first started with AOL then Blackplanet in high-school/College (think Myspace but for black people) I was 17 back then, and would send mass messages to chicks by the end of the day I would have 14 notes in my in-box out of 70 that I send. It would be a rush getting those messages, however being that young logistics was horrible and meeting up was usually slim since I didn't drive.
The first chick I ever hooked up with online, in real life was named "Nikki". Nikki was a fatty, who had a British accent but wasn't British. Nikki actually send me a message saying how cute I was, she was 22, I was 17. The first time talking to Nikki she kept talking about how cute I was, I escalated the talk and she was down for "giving you, a blowjob". This was years before I knew about game, at that time I only had been with one girl. So I was green when it came to chicks and sex.
Nikki came to my house, and she was the first girl to ever gave me a blow job, I remember putting saran wrap on my tongue and eating her out. When i was done I swear it was like this prickling/misting sound effect on my cheeks.
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Honestly I knew with Nikki it was a fling, and even though I wasn't attracted to her the fact that I was chilling with a "older" woman made me feel cool. She drove me places, she would take me out to eat and pay, she would take me shopping and buy me new gear. I felt like a pimp.
Anyway that's my first real dating/fling experience online (I've got hundreds more, some I'll post in the future)
Since Nikki I would guess that I have met close too 200 women online in real life.
My final verdict on online dating?
It sucks
Why?
1. Flakes--women online flake more then any other women
2. Fatties/Ug's- tons of supbar women who think they are "dimes"
3.Single mothers--a lot of single mothers feel they either are still "single" and deserve the cream of the crop of men. A lot of single mothers are also AW's/sluts. There are some cool ones though.
4. Hot chicks who are stuck up-- these chicks are picky and have surreal expectations, just reading their profiles you would think their goddess of the earth
5. Logistics--typically a lot of chicks live super far away, or can't meet you for some lame reason (one chick was 18 but couldn't meet me cause she lived at home and had strict parents)
6. AW's--I've met tons of chicks on the field just to see them online, these women typically are women who get their panties in a bunch from all types of attention, their not serious to date They just want validation
7.Women with unrealistic expectations--some women don't have sincere interest so all it takes is just one fuck up, and your "done". This goes hand in hand with the stuck up except fugly chicks seem to have this notion as well. These women typically want a guy who is 6'1, muscular, drives a nice car, college educated, makes 50,00,000 a year, likes to listen Coldplay, and cuddle , etc etc.(basically a guy who has it all, if that guy existed he wouldn't be online, he would be banging models)
8. Women w/ STD's-I've had a few women over the years tell me they had the "herp". Luckily i never hooked up with them nor met them. However this makes me wonder how many women I have hooked up with who did have some form of STD
Are there pros to online dating? of course
1. Easy ass--most girls I met online I usually smashed them on the first date
2 Money saver--you don't have to go to a bar or club to meet them, you can meet women while your at he comforts of your home, doing other things, and pimping on the side.
Nothing I'm saying hasn't been said before, so why do I online game? after having done it for over 10 years. My online game is pretty solid. I know from one IM convo if the girl is sincerely interested in a date or not. I know from text/phone convo's if I can bang on the first date or not. Personally speaking online dating rarely leads to anything long term, and quality wise the girls aren't as hot as the field
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just my 02. cents
Never tried online dating, too much working against me at the moment. If I want flings I'll hit the streets, but I can imagine online would be good for screening for stuff like education and background if you were a bit older and were actively looking for an LTR specifically.
ReplyDeleteBut yeah the ratio men/women is way off I'd imagine online, and simply because it's difficult to have genuine game in messages you couldn't stand out from the crowd. Any guy with game would do better trying to build a wide circle of friends, going out, etc because that's where we shine - in person.
I keep hearing about social network game, but I just can't see it working. Any experience with that Solo?
Lol... Solo stealing my post ideas! I got a post about online dating I'll probably put up some time next week....
ReplyDeleteThis was a good post. I agree with most of it.
quiet earth I'm glad you asked, I'm doing my "year 2" in the game write up. social networking gaming is one of the main topics, should be out in a couple weeks, its gonna be one of the best post these bloggers have ever seen, mark my words
ReplyDeleteLOL
I've been doing the online thing for about 4 years on and off for about 2-3 month spurts. Originally I just wanted to get quick dates to practice my comfort game and it's definitely helped over the years. And hey sometimes the easy lay comes in handy lol. The free sites are the worst in my opinion, though, especially pof. The girls I met off there were some of the weirdest/most damaged.
ReplyDeleteIts interesting you put up this post today because as of today I'm cutting myself off from online dating. I've had lots of dates from it and some bangs, but all your facts are correct.
ReplyDeleteThe biggest issue is because of all the messages girls get it bumps up their perceived value. Like you said, they'll drop you for no reason other than there's 100 other guys lined up. I find a girl's value easily jumps 3 to 4 points. 4's think they're 8's and so forth.
The fundamental problem is ratio of guys to girls. I've only done free sites like pof and okcupid, so the girls are pretty low quality. Pay sites may lead to more bangs, but hell if I'm going to pay for that.
Good Post Solo,
ReplyDeleteI'd like to just say this "On Line Dating" is cool for setting up dates when you leave the Country or city for that matter.
I think "Online Dating" makes your "Mouth-Piece" rusty because you become a cyber playa" and when you get out in the field you become almost anti-social ,plus they say that 99% of communication is Non-verbal than how much of it are you doing on-line ?? You literally have to type your emotions such as "SMH" Shaking My Head- Lol" Laughing Out Loud" etc.......
Again I'm Not knocking the Internet but I don't make it my primary source to pull quality females I get out and take my confident ass out in the real world .
My Two Cents.......
Peace.....
I'm working on my online game right now so will heed the advice.
ReplyDeleteI don't think online dating/hooking up is an either/or. If you like getting out and working your game live, doing it online won't weaken your game. If you're a shut-in and online is how you're trying to find someone, you're probably not comfortable getting out anyway. Online isn't a replacement for meeting people in person - you still have to do that. It just removes a certain randomness to meeting. You're breaking the ice with someone online, then meeting. You still have to bring some game when you meet.
ReplyDeleteI largely agree with the assessment of what you run into online though. Online takes patience to weed through the flakes, and build comfort gradually. It's not for the quick hook-up. Even on sites like Adultfriendfinder, that's supposedly just for sex, women still want select based on what kind of money a guy makes, and want you to take them out to get "comfortable" with you. Women ALWAYS are looking to date, and maybe a boyfriend, and have a high flake factor. I've had women, as soon as I friend them, give up the phone number or personal email. They're usually not attractive, or are desperate for a different reason. I've meet probably a handful of women online over the years that I've been intimate with, and am still in contact with and can name as friends. I have others I've never met (due to distance) that I email, chat, videocall, or talk to on the phone that if I met in person I could fuck. Online is a different kind of game, totally different from the approach you would use in person.
You're right about women online being quick to move on if you don't impress immediately. Even offline, when a woman feels a relationship winding down, she almost always knows who the next boyfriend is going to be.
ReplyDeleteFor example, one of my online hookups lived in Phoenix. We started chatting online, and things moved along QUICKLY. I decided to roll out there from NY for a weekend to meet (I had no expectations). She came to get me from the airport, and dropped me off at my hotel to check in, but then insisted I stay with her. Of course, along with seeing the sites, I smashed it all weekend. All of a sudden, SHE decided we were in a relationship. She wanted to talk several times a day on the phone, webcam every night, etc. etc. She actually had it in her mind that I would move there and live with her. Mind you, we never discussed this. SHE conjured this up in her head. When I finally explained that I wouldn't be moving to Phoenix EVER, she moved on IMMEDIATELY to a new guy. Meeting his family and the whole deal. She's moving to Syracuse to be with him as soon as she can line up a job, or sell her house, whichever comes first. She met him on the same site, and I'm sure was communicating with him even while she thought WE were going to be together. That's how women work. She's needy and insecure, and was determined to find SOMEONE. If it's not you, it'll be someone else. Just like that.